We have all seen that naughty little kid – the one who climbs shelves, breaks stuff on purpose and generally goes around seeing what kind of mess he/she can make, and how easily they can get away with it all. Perhaps we were that bad kid ourselves?! Or maybe our parents didn’t understand positive parenting.
It’s difficult to be a parent, especially when kids don’t behave the way we want them to. But, kids have minds of their own, and as they grow and learn more about life, their behaviors will certainly change, yet where does one start with punishment? After all, most of us were hit at one time and we survived…
In this study Externalizing Behaviors of Ukrainian Children: The Role of Parenting, researchers aimed to assess the outcomes of positive parenting and negative parenting. The results were not surprising – “positive parenting, child monitoring, and avoidance of corporal punishment were associated with fewer child externalizing symptoms.”
We as parents shape our children’s behavior, as we are the first and foremost contact in their lives. As in the Ukraine, in the U.S. children have externalizing behavior problems that stem not only from physical disciplining, but also from inconsistencies in enforcing discipline.
Positive parenting, on the other hand, helps form a child’s sense of security and competence. Praising your child for good behavior or for making good choices in life goes a long way in making them a model adult.
What does ethnicity, race or country location have to do with child behavior?
It is as simple as this: if children are aggressive or exhibit roughness in the young ages of life, they are likely to carry it into adulthood and pass it on. However, it has been noted that in countries where physical punishment is more common, there was a lower negative impact on the child’s development. Is it then okay to beat your children in some countries, and not in others? We think not.
Skin color, religion, and ethnicity do not matter as much as low-income, poverty and single parenting when it comes to corporal punishment. As far as poor-monitoring goes, all around the world where kids are not supervised, they are “more likely to engage in rule-breaking behavior”.
If children learn kindness, rather than physical violence, they are more apt to choose the intellectual, rather than fistful route in life.
Have you ever spanked your child? How did you, and your child, feel afterwards?
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